Musical Dating...like high school musical? No.
I declare this week "Relationship Week" for my blog. I've been gathering research and opinions from all sorts of people and I'm pretty stoked to dish out some potentially life changing words this week. I needed to hear everything that I'm telling you, we are in the same boat - remember that.
Okay, so today I'm going to dive right in to one of the biggest things I struggle with and most people struggle with subconsciously. This is something that most people wouldn't consider a struggle because it seems so lighthearted and harmless, but if you think about it - it is self-destructive.
*drum roll*.......Musical Dating! (no, nothing like singing songs to someone you like ...*cough high school musical cough*)
We all enjoy some lovey Keith Urban songs or ballads from Adele...or for some of you, Jonas Brothers. But, as a single person...who are you thinking about when you sing those songs?
If you are honest with yourself you will realize that it's quite impossible to sing love songs without placing them with someone in your head. Are you following me? Getting an "Ah ha!" moment?
So, who exactly are you placing those songs with in your head? That "best guy friend" you talk to all the time or maybe that kid in your class who you look at and think "He's my type". Okay, that's understandable. But are you dating that person? ....yeah, I didn't think so. So why are you spending your time listening to love songs and dating them in your head? "It gives me something to do and maybe one day he'll like me and then all the songs will be true!!"...um, really? Just stop.
Music is extraordinary. It can change our moods in an instant. You can use it to uplift you or you can use it to sink deeper into your sorrow and pity. OR you can use it to develop feelings for a person, even if you aren't trying to. But those songs make you feel hopeful for some guy to actually love you and then, subconsciously, your mind pulls out the guy your the closest to and *poof* you're musically attached. You're musically dating that person.
I know how easy it can be and how it usually happens while you're innocently singing your favorite songs. But now that you are aware of what is happening, do something about it. I'm not saying "Never listen to love songs until you're married!"..that's just weird. BUT I'm saying to fill your ears with music that will encourage you to lead an emotionally pure life and will keep you single in every way, if you are single. Because if you're single, be single. Don't have one foot in the water and then wonder why you're getting hurt.
"A heart at peace gives life to the body." - Prov 14:30
Music invades your heart, so if you sing love songs then love for someone will invade your heart, if you sing worship songs then worship will invade your heart. The question is, what do you want invading your heart?
"Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord." - Eph 5:19
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." - Prov 4:23
Okay, so today I'm going to dive right in to one of the biggest things I struggle with and most people struggle with subconsciously. This is something that most people wouldn't consider a struggle because it seems so lighthearted and harmless, but if you think about it - it is self-destructive.
*drum roll*.......Musical Dating! (no, nothing like singing songs to someone you like ...*cough high school musical cough*)
We all enjoy some lovey Keith Urban songs or ballads from Adele...or for some of you, Jonas Brothers. But, as a single person...who are you thinking about when you sing those songs?
If you are honest with yourself you will realize that it's quite impossible to sing love songs without placing them with someone in your head. Are you following me? Getting an "Ah ha!" moment?
So, who exactly are you placing those songs with in your head? That "best guy friend" you talk to all the time or maybe that kid in your class who you look at and think "He's my type". Okay, that's understandable. But are you dating that person? ....yeah, I didn't think so. So why are you spending your time listening to love songs and dating them in your head? "It gives me something to do and maybe one day he'll like me and then all the songs will be true!!"...um, really? Just stop.
Music is extraordinary. It can change our moods in an instant. You can use it to uplift you or you can use it to sink deeper into your sorrow and pity. OR you can use it to develop feelings for a person, even if you aren't trying to. But those songs make you feel hopeful for some guy to actually love you and then, subconsciously, your mind pulls out the guy your the closest to and *poof* you're musically attached. You're musically dating that person.
I know how easy it can be and how it usually happens while you're innocently singing your favorite songs. But now that you are aware of what is happening, do something about it. I'm not saying "Never listen to love songs until you're married!"..that's just weird. BUT I'm saying to fill your ears with music that will encourage you to lead an emotionally pure life and will keep you single in every way, if you are single. Because if you're single, be single. Don't have one foot in the water and then wonder why you're getting hurt.
"A heart at peace gives life to the body." - Prov 14:30
Music invades your heart, so if you sing love songs then love for someone will invade your heart, if you sing worship songs then worship will invade your heart. The question is, what do you want invading your heart?
"Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord." - Eph 5:19
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." - Prov 4:23
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